In meeting with numerous married couples, I often see that couples are surprised about the concept of marriage needing boundaries. First you have to understand this concept and know what it means, then apply it to your marriage. It is common that boundaries could get confused in particular in the marital relations so it’s critical that both spouses have a conversation about boundaries in marriage. Most marriage fail because of poor boundaries than any other reason. Let’s first clarify and understand what a boundary is.
As a Burbank marriage counselor specializing in relationships, I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and have been practicing since 1999. My specialties include helping adult individuals, couples, and family therapy with their adult children.
Sometime a person has difficulty making decisions, setting healthy priorities or setting limits with a partner, they have difficulty identifying how they feel, think they can take care of themselves without any help from others, they feel embarrassed asking or admitting they need help, they minimize, deny or alter how they truly feel, they avoid and postpone addressing the addiction or don't know how to address it instead of reacting to it, they express negativity and aggression in passive ways or indirectly and they don't realize that the men whom they are attracted to or living with, are not available to them.
Marriage requires hard work and can be challenging. Some of the common relationship problems with couples are: infidelity, unending arguments, addictions, power struggles, narcissism and alienation. These are really hard issues to deal with in any marriage. These problems can also keep the couple from the energy they need to spend with their kids and the proper attention their kids or teens deserve. If you are in a marriage that is facing problems and your marriage is being tested, I have a few tips for you.
What is an attachment style? Attachment style has to do with the way you relate to others in your intimate relationships. This style affects how you talk to others, it impacts the way you get close to others or not, it also explains why you are frustrated in your relationship, why you run into arguments and why you are not happy and feels stuck. Your attachment style also explains and clarifies how you find love, why you get attracted to certain individuals and explains the way you keep your love!!
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