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Marriage is the most important relationship you will create. Happy marriages produce happy kids.
Marriage is a unique relationship and unlike any other relationship. Marriage requires attention and attending to! Many couples have problems with communication. That is because not many couples have the right skills when it comes to dealing with challenges and difficult issues. In spite of couples loving each other, they report feelings of frustrations because they keep fighting about repeating the same old patterns in their marriages.
As humans we are relational beings. That is right, you are meant to connect with your spouse. Let me give you an example. You have a relationship with your car. How is that? Using or driving your car is not the only experience with your car. However, your car is dependent on attending to it, taking care of it and making time for it. When you get in your car do you check in with your dashboard before driving it? Do you make time to notice your fuel and other basic needs before driving? In marriage, you must have an awareness not only of yourself, but of your spouse too. Do you have the skills to see what that awareness sounds and looks like in practical ways?
Seeking awareness in your relationship and the right type of engaging with your spouse would lead you to better communication. You must be attentive to your marital relationship as you are to your car. Working therapeutically with Jousline Savra will show you that, and help you to gain the right relationships skills.
Another reality about marriage is that you both have an ongoing relational dance that keeps you stuck and frustrated!
What is the dance in your marriage today? Do you have the awareness, the right relationship skills? What did you learn growing up? Are you ignoring the problems in your marriage today? The longer you wait the get the right type of help, the more painful it will be to get your marriage on the right and healthy track.
Adversity in marriage provokes growth! Find out how to grow closer to each other.
In order to experience an authentic connection in marriage, both spouses must be able to communicate their emotional needs clearly. Many people don’t know how to do this!
Your early life experiences – your early history in life plays a significant role in your marital relationship and how you two talk to each other, whether resolving conflicts and disagreements or ignoring them.
Therefore, it’s important to discover your love style which explains your marital problems including your parenting style and much more. You can take the love style quiz as part of your counseling process with our marriage counselor Jousline Savra.
The longer you wait as a couple, and ignore or delay facing your problems, the more painful your experiences will be.
Your kids are significantly impacted by how you talk to your spouse.
The happier and healthier your marriage, the happier your kids will be. No matter what age your kids are, the quality of your marital relationship and how you talk or treat each other leave a lifetime lasting impression that cannot be erased.
Your relational dance is due to your love styles. This dance keeps you arguing, experiencing certain upsets and feelings of frustration and misunderstanding, as a result, you are repeating a painful repetitive cycle year after year. Couples don’t know that there is a better way. Many couples struggle in the area of sexual intimacy. Many couples are not aware of all the underlying unresolved emotions can impair their sexual intimacy, emotional connection is the foundation to your sexual intimacy.
After attraction, dating and marriage, many couples don’t know that their histories shape their sexuality. Couples don’t know how to build a sexually satisfying marriage. Couples are unaware that the role of friendship and their attachment style plays a critical role in healthy sexuality in marriage. They are unaware that abuse, porn, affairs and other hard stuff destroys intimacy and connection between two people. We are designed as sexual beings with a purpose in mind.
Do you and your spouse need to rejuvenate, restore or rescue your marriage today?
Do you need to refresh your relationship and your communication skills?
Does your marriage need to be rescued or restored?
Are you continuously repeating the same patterns in your communication? Feel Stuck?
Is your marriage in crisis?
Are you experiencing betrayal or infidelity in your marriage, or perhaps your husband struggles with compulsive sexual habits such as pornography? Do you feel confused, lost and hopeless?
Are you dealing with unresolved anger and long term pain between you two? Passing of time will not resolve your marital problems.
What is your story today? Are you tired of ongoing communication problems with your spouse and you don’t know how to make things better between you two? You just want to feel close to him or understood by her, is it not happening? Are you and your spouse constantly bickering, dealing with sex, money, work-related issues or family-in-law matters? Another common problem is that many couples don’t know how to talk about the reality and the role of sex in their marriage. Can you have an honest talk about sex? Is that original attraction you felt still alive in your relationship?
The important key to solving marital problems is when you know how to have an honest conversation without reacting to your spouse. If you don’t know how to do that, please take the time to get the right professional help. The passing of time or ignoring your problems will not solve your relationship problems. The longer you wait, the more complex and difficult it will be. Have the courage to face and address it with the right marriage counselor.
Attachment Theory and You. Your problems did not begin in your marriage. You and your spouse each have an imprint which is, a result of your early life experiences. During your counseling with Jousline Savra, you will learn what your love style is, and how your love style causes problems in your relationship, in spite of how much you love your spouse. You can find out more details about this by reading Jousline’s counseling and marriage Blog on this site.
Meanwhile, contact Jousline Savra to set up an appointment to do in-depth work on discovering what your love style is. You can click right here for an appointment “contact me” where she will respond to you as soon as possible. Please do not include any personal and sensitive information about your marriage or relationship, only request for dates and times to meet with her. You can also visit How We Love website and take the love style quiz, right here to learn about your love style prior to your first session with her. Learning your love style and your own attachment style can significantly help your marriage, the way you communicate, change your life, and your interpersonal interactions for the better.
Meeting weekly and regularly will help you get results. Keeping the momentum going is highly important in order for you both to experience changes in your marital relationship. Ms. Savra offers simple, practical, and effective tools to take your relationship to the next level. She offers much more than listening and being empathic. She is interactive and goes to work with you to help you to grow and make changes. This all depends all on you and your comittment to the process of therapy.
Important Information: As a relationship expert and a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist, Jousline Savra meets with couples who are in a committed relationship, either married or engaged focusing on improving their marriage or preparing for a lifetime of authentic loving marriage. Jousline Savra walks you through the steps of diagnosing the health of your relationship, and then provides you with ways to improve in areas that you may be struggling. Every marriage and every relationship has room for improvement. The specific tools that she offers are specifically for those couples who are in a committed relationship.
What To Expect: When you begin meeting for marriage counseling with Jousline Savra, you can discover and identify the source of missteps in your communication. You will discover the roots to your arguments, and find out exactly what you can do instead of constantly arguing. Communication is the lifeline of any marriage, it can be very challenging, and is a complex part of any relationship.
Many times couples don’t learn the effective ways of communicating prior to getting married. They don’t realize that problems will be carried on to their marriage. Therefore, timing and taking care of your problems in communication is the key to saving your marriage. Learning how to grow closer to each other as years pass will allow you to feel more connected. This takes effort, time and energy just like anything else in your life that you make room for and attend to. After you say “I Do” does not mean that all is well and you no longer have to win her or know how to love him.
Perhaps, you need to repair love or trust that has been broken! Whether you want to rejuvenate your marriage repair and restore your relationship, Ms. Savra can help you, if you are each serious to make changes. She uses unique tools that can help you create comfort in your marriage, and take your communicate to a deeper level than before. She creates clarity for each of you, and will show you how your love style can sabotage your relationship and your marriage. She helps spouses understand each other in new ways, and improve their communication.
As your Los Angeles Toluca Lake Burbank Marriage Therapist, Jousline Savra is committed to help you grow closer as a married couple, you will learn new communication skills, and learn to resolve conflicts. This all depends on you. She conducts in-depth marital counseling sessions with couples, helping them communicate well without holding onto negative feelings for a long period of time. The couples counseling sessions are experiential, and teach couples specific content to improve their communication skills and their relationship.
There are no quick fixes in relationships. It is in the process of therapy and marriage counseling that you can learn the right relationship skills, so that you can feel connected with each other. If you are looking for a quick fix of visiting only for a few sessions you will not get the right help, this process can take several months. Depending on the level of commitment the couple, and your goals, you will see a change and improve your marital relationship for the better. Your willingness to reach out for professional therapy is a sign of wisdom and strength.
There is a big difference between being truly married, feelingclose and connected with your spouse, versus just living life together and being on the same team sharing tasks. Are you able to be open and kind as a spouse as you face challenges in your relationship? Do you know how to have difficult conversations, yet remain feeling connected with the other person? Do you know how to identify and share your emotions for the purpose of enhancing the communication in your marriage? Most common issues that bring couples into therapy are; infidelity, sexual concerns, separation or divorce, not feeling happy in the marriage, not being able to get along, loss of attraction, dealing with traumatic events such as not knowing how to deal with spouse’s addiction or having conflicts with the in-laws. Taking the first step is the most difficult part of healing.
Basically your relationship is on the rocks. You both know it, but you both avoid the tough conversation because you aren’t sure how to fix things and you are not even sure if you want to. If you do talk about what is going on you will end up having a huge argument. Sadly, this scenario applies to so many couples, married or not.
Now, it’s up to you to take the step to get real help for your marriage. Contact us.