The Counseling Couch – Blog

For years, your marriage may have revolved around your children. School schedules, sports, homework, family dinners, college planning, and the countless responsibilities of parenting can easily become the rhythm of daily life. Then, seemingly overnight, the house...

Over the years, I have had many clients come into my office saying, "I took an attachment style quiz online, and it says I'm anxious," or, "I found out I'm avoidant, and now everything makes sense."  I actually appreciate when people become curious about themselves...

One of the most common questions I hear from people who are dating, engaged, or struggling in a relationship is this: "Why does my partner react the way they do?" Maybe they need constant reassurance. Maybe they shut down whenever emotions become intense. Maybe they...

When I work with individuals and couples in marriage counseling, one of the most powerful concepts we explore is attachment style. Attachment is everything. Your attachment affects every aspect of your life. Many relationship struggles that seem confusing on the...

There is something exciting and powerful about instant attraction. Most people have experienced it at some point in their lives. You meet someone unexpectedly, and within moments, you feel chemistry, excitement, curiosity, and emotional intensity. It can feel...

When I think about the early years of marriage, I often picture the excitement most couples feel at the beginning. The wedding day is filled with hope, connection, celebration, and promises about the future. Many couples genuinely believe their love will naturally...

When I talk with couples—whether they’re engaged, newly married, or years into their relationship—I often hear the same story: “Everything was great when we were dating… what happened?”  It’s a fair question. After all, weddings are beautiful. They’re filled with...

One of the most important things I help couples understand is this: your relationship didn’t start when you met your partner. It started much earlier—often in childhood or any part of your early life experiences.  The way you connect, communicate, respond to conflict,...

If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking a text, feeling uneasy when communication slows down, or needing constant reassurance in a relationship, you’re not alone. These patterns often point to something deeper than just “dating anxiety.” In my work as a therapist,...

If you’ve ever felt yourself pulling away right when things start getting serious… you’re not alone. At first, everything feels good. There’s connection, attraction, maybe even excitement. But then something shifts. You start needing space. You feel overwhelmed. You...