Remember when you take care of yourself by looking inside, you could thrive in your relationships, in your work and in your life.
Experiencing chronic sadness, feeling empty, lonely, insecure, or reliving any untreated past trauma could easily lead to depression and other mental health issues. Pain is a precursor for change! Pain makes us face our reality!
Depression, anger, stress, loneliness, anxiety and not being happy in your relationship are painful experiences that lead you to get help. Chances are you have experienced one or more of these conditions. You don’t have to face these alone. As a human being, you are designed to grow, recover and heal in relationships.
For trauma treatment and recovery, please visit our Brainspotting page for more information.
Happy relationships are meant to be nurturing. When we feel any of these emotions such as; feeling depressed, despair, angry or grief, many feel broken, deeply hurt, and hopeless. Perhaps you are not aware of how anxious you feel, and how that impacts various aspects of your life and your relationships. Self-care is an important component of facing any of these issues. Please do not put this off, practicing healthy self-care is non-negotiable when you might be barely keeping your head above water. It’s important to find a place where you can experience this. The process of effective therapy is about helping you to move toward feeling restored, so that you can feel more like yourself to enjoy your life, and experience healthier relationships. Everyone from time to time has had life experiences that have been confusing, painful, or challenging. Life is difficult. You are the one person who can make the changes necessary in your relationships that would lead to a healthy and meaningful place in life.
In spite of your challenges today, and past painful life experiences, it is up to you to take the right steps. Finding the therapist who is the right fit is half of the work. You may find it helpful to read my blog discussing how to search for a good therapist. You may click right here to read about finding a marriage therapist.
Perhaps, you are married and your spouse is unwilling to meet with a therapist for marriage counseling, but you would like help and support as an individual. Please don’t let that stop nor discourage you. The good news is that if your spouse is unwilling to do therapy, you can still seek help for yourself. One change can be significant in the relationship. If you consider individual therapy, you can tell your spouse that you are going to follow through with your individual counseling, and he/she can inform you later if they have a change of heart.
As humans, we are not designed to live life nor process our stories alone in isolation, but we are supposed to be with someone whom we can connect with.
Therapy For Women:
Women often struggle with self-criticism, self-doubt, and feeling inadequate. While this is very sad and women often suffer in these ways, they may have not taken the time to reflect on the root of these thoughts, which leads to these misleading negative feelings. Our early life experiences create a blue print that has a lifetime impact. The good news is that you can change it as an adult. I often hear from many women such as: “I don’t feel like I matter” “I don’t have a voice in the relationship and don’t know what to do” or women say “What’s wrong with me?” “I don’t feel seen in my relationship” “I don’t know how to deal with my husband’s addiction?” They see themselves as the problem. Similar thoughts and feelings that have been going on for a long time, tend to lead to depression, anxiety, overall feeling unhappy and feeling stuck. Do you identify with any of these?
Married or Single – a change in one person can lead to a change in the relationship
- Are you still dealing with some unresolved pain or issue from the past or your family of origin?
- Are you ready to turn your relationship in the right direction, but don’t know how?
- Do you feel anxious and stuck because it’s impacting your relationship and your overall well being?
- Is something from your past interfering with your present relationships?
- Do you have difficulty saying no?
- Are you tired of that addiction or addictive behavior in your life?
- Did you get into the relationship too quickly and you keep having arguments and don’t know how to move forward?
- Do you know how to have difficult conversations that is not detrimental to your relationship?
As a psychotherapist, Jousline Savra practices the attachment theory as she helps adult individuals and couples with very difficult emotional and communication issues. Ms. Savra’s counseling practice in Toluca Lake is highly respected and in great demand by couples and adult men and women.
Attachment Theory and You. Every person has an attachment style which is also their love style. Your love style is formed as a result of your early life experiences. During your counseling with Jousline, you will learn how your love style causes you problems in your relationship and your communication. You can read more about love styles in Jousline Savra’s Blog section in this website.
Meanwhile, please feel free to contact Ms. Savra to set up an appointment to do more in-depth work on your attachment or your love style, and gain clarity on how your attachment style sabotages your relationships. You can click on this section contact where she will respond to you as soon as possible. You can also visit How We Love website and take their love style quiz, to learn about your love style. Learning your love style and your own attachment style will significantly help and improve your life, your marital relationship, and your overall interpersonal interactions.
Your Toluca Lake Therapist is highly experienced and trained to help you, to not only increase appropriate self-awareness of your needs, but she will help you by providing the right tools for the types of healthy changes you want to make in your life and your relationships. Ms. Savra helps men and women addressing difficult issues in their relationships during the process of their individual therapy. Sometimes it’s the first time they can uncover and heal from any unresolved issues that may be standing in the way of creating positive and healthy changes in their lives or relationships.
Many wives stay silent in their pains of confusion, shame, and sadness when they are married to men who have compulsive sexual integrity issues such as; viewing pornography, engaging in extramarital affairs, and more. Women feel so much shame about their husband’s sex addition and compulsive sexual habits outside of the marriage while they suffer alone. Don’t be alone with this pain. Many times women believe that the sign of strength is being able to handle marital problems alone, and as a result they have become emotionally self-sufficient. Unfortunately, this is an epidemic, and many marriages are suffering due to sexual integrity issues. Somehow, men viewing pornography has been normalized by many in our society as men being men. No one really knows how to talk about this openly or about the impact this has on the marital relationship, and the heart of the woman who continues to put up with it. Furthermore, the existence and the role of social media and the internet have also made this issue more complicated.
One of the most important tasks women have is to learn to value themselves. Learning and taking the time to look at your uncomfortable feelings and experiences, and understanding your pain, is the key to your overall wellness. Women can’t do this alone, actually you are not meant to go through this alone! You must find the right therapist who knows how to help you with this, who can help you to grow and heal as you feel confused and betrayed in your marriage.
Therapy For Men:
Only if men could talk! Our culture teaches men to isolate when they are in pain. In particular, in today’s culture with the power of social media and confusing messages, men are more confused than ever. Men numb their distress and negative feelings with different types of activities, distractions, and addictive behaviors. They are lead to be misunderstood in their marriages and lives. Fortunately, there is a better solution for them. Men too have needs, but rarely anyone helped them to know how to address them in healthy ways. So many men suffer quietly in shame. As a therapist, I see it in my counseling sessions frequently. The good news is that there is much hope, there is a way to come out of shame and heal, grow, and live to their full potentials.
Moreover, they long to hear that their fathers are proud of them, feeling important and visible to their dads. When a boy becomes an adult man, and enters into an intimate relationship, his significant other expects him to be a sensitive communicator, and express his feelings, and he has yet to have figured out for himself what that means. These experiences may lead men feeling at a loss to meet expectations as they communicate, leading to feelings of inadequacy, frustration, and anger. The process of individual therapy can help men get clarity for themselves in identifying their true emotions, look at their value system, reflecting on who they are as men, and learn how to effectively communicate in his relationships and connect with his wife. The journey of individual therapy can also create feelings of self-empowerment, enabling men to becoming authentic as men, and have deeper connections with his loved ones.
Ms. Savra’s counseling office is located in the heart of Toluca Lake in Burbank close to Studio City, blocks away from NBC Universal City, The Disney Chanel and Warner Bros Studios. An advance appointment is required – you can request for an appointment by clicking on top of this page. In your email, please include specific dates and times that you are able to meet for an appointment. Please do not include any sensitive clinical or relationship issues in this email.